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Yes, You Should Have a 'Fuck-Off Fund' in Case of Life, Relationship or Job Meltdowns
Over on The Billfold, a writer named Paulette Perhach published an excellent short piece about what she’s termed “financial self-defense” or, more euphoniously, a “Fuck Off Fund.” That is: the money you may need at any given moment to get away f
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Narcissistic Abuse: From Victim to Survivor in 6 Steps
Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html You have been abused,...
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The 2 Types of People to Eliminate From Your Life Forever
They may be sipping coffee in the desk across from you, lurking in your corner of the classroom or occupying the home next door. In the most unfortunate of circumstances,
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TED Talk Subtitles and Transcript: You're not at your best when you're stressed. In fact, your brain has evolved over millennia to release cortisol in stressful situations, inhibiting rational, logical thinking but potentially helping you survive,
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7 TED Talks on remembering those we've lost
The pain of personal loss, war and conflict is universal. These speakers share large and small ways to remember those lost even long after they're gone.
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Daughters of Unloving Mothers: 7 Common Wounds
Taking stock is often the first step in healing.
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9 Ways to Ask For (and Get) What You Want
Practice your assertiveness and a
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3 Reasons Your Friends Annoy You (and What to Do About It)
If you want the people you care about to change, help them.
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Self-Sabotage as Passive Aggression Toward the Self (Pt 5/5)
Could you be—unawares—a mental and emotional masochist?
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Guilt vs. Responsibility is Powerlessness vs. Power
Understanding emotional pollution and power.
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Review: In ‘When Breath Becomes Air,’ Dr. Paul Kalanithi Confronts an Early Death
This memoir tells how he adjusted his attitude and life before dying of cancer at 37.
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How to make successful New Year’s resolutions
USC Dornsife’s John Monterosso has some ideas — and makes a case for rethinking well-intentioned resolutions that sap pleasure from your life.
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The Law of Attraction: Learning to move up the Emotional Scale | Energy Therapy
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How to build your creative confidence
Is your school or workplace divided into
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The Art of the Non-Apology
The hosts of The View us how non-apologizing is done.
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Why You Have Mixed Emotions, Even at Happy Times
Research into why we can't fully embrace happiness (and why it's OK).
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Does body language help a TED Talk go viral? 5 nonverbal patterns from blockbuster talks
All TED Talks are good. Why do only some go viral? Over the last year, a human behavior consultancy called Science of People set out to answer this question. To do so, says founder Vanessa Van Edwa...
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9 Ways You’re Being Rude Without Realizing It
If you're doing something that would prompt Stephanie Tanner to say
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Why we all need to practice emotional first aid
We'll go to the doctor when we feel flu-ish or a nagging pain. So why don’t we see a health professional when we feel emotional pain: guilt, loss, loneliness? Too many of us deal with common psychological-health issues on our own, says Guy Winch. Bu
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The Definition Of Hell For Each Myers-Briggs Personality Type
ENTJ – Somebody is wrong, and they’re directing a large group of people!
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Do You Know Which Personality Type You Are?
Do you know what type of personality you have?
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Here’s Where You Should Live Based On Your Myers-Briggs Personality Type
It can be argued that cities, like people, all hold distinctive personalities. To find which one best matches your own personality, take the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator and then check out which cit...
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Fault-Finding and Judging Others: A Missed Opportunity to Love
Written by Thubten Chodron In order to stop pointing out others' faults, we have to work on our underlying mental habit of judging others. Even if we don't…
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7 Quotes To Remember When You're Surrounded By Negativity
Subscribe: We hear it time and time again, “stop caring about what other people think.” Well, most people agree that’s a lot easier said than done. The world is full of opportunities to compare ourselves to others, hoping they’ll a
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The Secret to How People Work Well Under Pressure
One thing hiring managers look for is the ability to handle high amounts of pressure. Here's the trick to pulling it off with grace.
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I Love Me a Lot, but I Think I Should See Other People
Don’t try to love yourself; make yourself lovable.
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It's a Step, Not a Stop, on your Journey
In life, it's up to you to decide when you've
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Why We Self-Sabotage Our Success
We self-handicap to protect our self-esteem in difficult tasks.
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Self-Sabotage and Your
As illogical as it might seem, your child self may be your saboteur.
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3 Steps to Keeping Your Cool (and Saving Your Relationships)
What you need to know to control your fight, flight, or freeze response.
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Do You Need a Friendship Cleanse?
How to step away from the people who bring out your worst.
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How to Help a Grieving Friend: 11 Things to Do When You're Not Sure What to Do
Above all, show your love. Show up. Say something. Do something. Be willing to stand beside the gaping hole that has opened in your friend's life, without flinching or turning away. Be love. Love is the thing that lasts.
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Brené Brown on Empathy
What is the best way to ease someone's pain and suffering? In this beautifully animated RSA Short, Dr Brené Brown reminds us that we can only create a genuin...
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How not to say the wrong thing
When Susan had breast cancer , we heard a lot of lame remarks, but our favorite came from one of Susan's colleagues. She wanted, she needed, to visit Susan after the surgery, but Susan didn't feel like having visitors, and she said so. Her colleague's res
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7 'Positive Thinking' Mantras That Can Actually Cross the Line Into Gaslighting
“Don't cry.” People reject others' feelings or lived experiences all the time – even when they think they're helping. If taken too far, it can cross into abuse. Are any of these phrases familiar to you?
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Lady Gaga discovered how to be happy when she started saying one word a lot more often
For someone who's achieved so much as quickly as Lady Gaga, she's also had some serious low...
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11 TED Talks to watch when you're stuck in a rut
We all feel stuck sometimes — whether it’s on a creative project, in a job where we feel like we’ve plateaued, or a mental state we just can’t seem to shake out of. These talks may help give you that jolt.
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4 Secrets of the Most Charismatic People
These 4 things are super easy to implement, but take practice to master.
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5 Brilliant TED Talks That Will Boost Your Emotional Intelligence
These talks will inspire you to think differently about yourself and others.
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A dirty secret called grief
After her mother’s death, Kiran Sidhu found she was expected to ‘move on’ with such bewildering haste that her only option was to conceal her sorrow
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5 Beliefs to Radically Transform Unhappiness to Wellbeing
Switching into a positive state of mind, in spite of life's hardships
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Why Our Emotions Are More Rational Than We Think
The interface between rationality and emotions
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13 Ways to Tell Whether It's Love or Manipulation
When people are quick with praise, is it because they want something from you?
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How to Answer the Question You Get Asked Most Often
It may seem automatic but it's part of the glue of your relationships.
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3 Reasons Your Friends Annoy You (and What to Do About It)
If you want the people you care about to change, help them.
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5 Myths About Burnout (and the Truth We Need to Understand)
Misconceptions about the causes, the cure, and what it means can hold you back.
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Why some of us don't have one true calling
What do you want to be when you grow up? Well, if you're not sure you want to do just one thing for the rest of your life, you're not alone. In this illuminating talk, writer and artist Emilie Wapnick describes the kind of people she calls
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When we’re Triggered: How to Stop Reacting Defensively.
Just when I think I’m awake and really have it going on---ready to share my wisdom with others---life takes me to a new level of understanding.
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The Least Helpful Thing to Say to Someone Who's Down
... and 5 ways to really be there for someone who needs you.
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Who's the Emotional Vampire in Your Life?
Learn how to protect yourself from draining people in your life.
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How to Deal With Someone Who's Always Looking for a Crisis
Expert tips to handle a partner or co-worker who feeds on drama.
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9 Signs You're Holding Yourself Back From Happiness + What To Do About It
We're all very well equipped with the knowledge and tools to manage our physical health. We know that our fitness will never improve if we ignore it, and we understand that the consequences of doing
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The Can’t-Won’t-Shouldn’t Shell Game: Jerks and what to do about them
The Can’t-Won’t-Shouldn’t Shell Game: Jerks and what to do about them
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People Who Get Away With Things: Why Be Angry?
Maybe there's a good reason why some people are bad.
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Psychological Crutches: Ten Myths and Three Tips
The healthy quest for
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How to Stop Having Disagreements That Ruin Your Day
3 steps to reducing stress in your relationships
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Does Your Bright Side Have a Dark Side?
Surprising new research on who we really want around when the going gets tough.
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3 Reasons Why People Badmouth Others (and Succeed)
Does the kinder, gentler approach work just as well?
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20 Crucial Pieces Of Life Advice, As Told By People Over 60. Number 11 Is Essential.
Our elders are full of wisdom, we just have to listen.
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How to Stop Worrying and Get on With Your Life
An expert explains why worries spiral out of control, and how to stop them.
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10 Techniques For Overcoming Speaker's Anxiety
Tricks of the trade for dealing with stage freight or social anxiety
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What Shit Are You Too Old For?
At what age are you allowed to stop doing bullshit things you no longer feel like doing with the excuse “I’m too old for this shit”? I often wondered in my twenties when I could take advantage of this exciting turn of phrase used by older people eve
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5 ways to change your body language to make people like you
VIDEO: Subtle tricks are all you need.
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This mathematical principle reveals the best way to get anything you want in life
According to the Gale-Shapley matching algorithm, it pays to take the initiative.
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Stress And Anxiety Triggers By Each Zodiac Sign And How To Deal With It
We all have our stress triggers, which set us off into panic. While some of us are control freaks and hope to be Superman and Superwoman like Taurus and Aries, others fear feeling unsafe like the sensitive Cancer or exposed like the private and dreamy Pi
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How to speak so that people want to listen
Have you ever felt like you're talking, but nobody is listening? Here's Julian Treasure to help. In this useful talk, the sound expert demonstrates the how-to's of powerful speaking — from some handy vocal exercises to tips on how to speak w
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5 Reasons We Don't Let Ourselves Be Happy
... and 5 ways to finally, and fully, pursue our own happiness.
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4 Things to Do When Your Brain Is Tired
... and how to keep it from getting that way in the first place.
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Are You Your Own Person?
Take the Self-Determination Inventory to Find Out
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Feeling Bad? Here's What You Shouldn't Do.
Research shows how a common coping strategy backfires.
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What Codependency Is, and What It Isn't
... and why this expert will stop using the label.
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This Is Why Betrayal Hurts So Much
Research reveals the deeper wound behind the shock.
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6 Ways to Get What You Want (Without Being Called a Whiner)
It's trickier than it seems, but research points to some promising strategies.
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8 Lessons We Can Learn From The Dalai Lama On His 80th Birthday
In his lifetime, His Holiness the Dalai Lama has become the quintessential example of what it means to live each day with the utmost compassion. He is able to look at the world -- and all of the indiv
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11 Feng Shui Tips to Overcome Debt and Deficiency - OMTimes Magazine
In Feng Shui, its all about the chi (life energy). If you want to overcome debt, you just need to shift the energy to the right places.
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7 Feng Shui Tips to Stop Feeling Drained All the Time
Fatigue is a common problem in our society, as people try to juggle the stresses of daily life. Here are a few Feng Shui tips to start feeling better.
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5 Ways To Invite Love Into Your Home with Feng Shui
Did you know that your home could be the thing that is stifling your love life? A redesign of your home using feng shui just might be the answer.
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When people think of empathy, they tend to see it as a soft skill -- as a yielding and pleasing kind of behavior. They think: If you listen to me and agree with me and make me feel good, that's empathy. If you fix my problems and soothe everything, that's
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The True Heart of Money
Life In harmony with your money begins with your values.
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Why Highly Sensitive People Attract Narcissists + How To Disengage
In my work with clients and in hearing from readers, I've witnessed a pattern of highly sensitive people being in relationships with narcissists or sociopaths — and they're ready to break free from
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6 Ways To Find Out If Your Friend Is Actually A Friend
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Feel Lost, Disconnected, No Passion or Purpose? You Are Expanding
For those of you have unexplained symptoms of physical or emotional pain, know that you are not alone. Feeling lost, disconnected, without…
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Why Is It So Hard to Take Your Own Advice?
Here, take it, I’m not using it.
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Ladies, Why Can't We All Just Get Along?
Just as one would never go into a marriage with the expectation of it leading down that bumpy road of divorce, the same applies to friendships. You go into friendship eager to forge what you hope will be a lifelong bond with that person upon whose shoulde
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The Vampire’s Bite: Victims of Narcissists Speak Out
How do narcissists' partners get their life sucked out of them?
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Are You Addicted to Anxiety? Learn How Not to Be
Learn how break your addiction to anxiety and become more peaceful.
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Who's the Emotional Vampire in Your Life?
Learn how to protect yourself from draining people in your life.
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8 Ways to Handle a Narcissist
How to keep your own emotions in check when dealing with difficult people.
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Overcoming Fear of Public Speaking
Try these 6 Keys to build your self-confidence
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Can’t Kick a Bad Habit? You’re Probably Doing It Wrong
How to use identity change for behavior change
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How to Make Yourself Do It When You Just Don't Want To
Three strategies to help you stop putting things off.
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You Are (Probably) Wrong About You
The truth is, we don't know ourselves nearly as well as we think we do
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How to Get Out of the Rut of Self-Harming Thoughts and Feelings
Every single one of us is guilty of treating ourselves poorly at some point during our lives. Unfortunately, some of us are…
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The Real Reason Some of Us Are Chronically Late
Being late is stressful, but for many, it beats the alternative.
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15 Ways to Get Someone out of Your Head
Expert tips to manage your frustration and get past toxic thinking.
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Living a Lie
Fooling yourself can have devastating consequences, especially in the domains of money, career, sexual identity and relationships. Meet four people who fought their way to an authentic life.
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5 Tips to Help You Survive Until Next Year’s Caregiver Month
Do caregivers really want to celebrate National Family Caregivers Month?
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Five Things We Tend to Regret — And Why We Shouldn’t Regret Them
Get over regret before it gets the best of you
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How Stepping Out Of Their Comfort Zones Helped These Women Grieve
Is there a sixth step in the grieving process?
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Sheryl Sandberg’s Heartbreaking Post About Grief Holds Lessons for Us All
Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg posted an emotional note on the social media site on Wednesday, on what she's experienced while grieving her late husband Dave Goldberg.
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Your Own Worst Enemy: 10 Ways To Avoid Self-Sabotage
Don’t let the fear of failure conquer you.
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The Secret Reason We Procrastinate
... and the simple shift that can get you back on track.
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The Muddied Meaning of ‘Mindfulness’
If the word seems like a badge for the self-satisfied set, that’s because its true meaning has become obscured.
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How to Successfully Handle Aggressive and Controlling People
How to Successfully Deal with Aggressive, Intimidating, and Controlling People
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How to be Über-Successful in Your Love Life & in Your Career
The Best of Communication Success, Volume 1
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10 Totally Mindful Mantras from the Totally Awesome 80's! - Left Brain Buddha
We could dismiss the
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Avoid Procrastination: Funky Tip Makes You Start 4 Times Sooner - PsyBlog
This trick makes you feel closer to your future self so that you start four times sooner.
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6 Reasons Nice People Can Hurt Your Feelings
... and 4 tips to help them avoid it.
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Books to help you answer big questions about yourself
Why in the world did I do that? How can I do better? Chances are you've asked yourself these questions at least once today. To understand how your mind works and how you can improve your decision-m...
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How not to say the wrong thing
When Susan had breast cancer, we heard a lot of lame remarks, but our favorite came from one of Susan's colleagues. She wanted, she needed, to visit Susan after the surgery, but Susan didn't feel...
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Into the Light: 5 Steps to Find Your Way Through the Darkness
By Andrea Schulman Most of us will experience a low point in life, where we’ve become lost and have wandered off of…
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10 Questions To Finally Change Your Habits
Stop fantasizing about how you're going to change. Ask yourself these questions, and make it happenwhatever your goals are.
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10 Most Brilliant Social Psychology Experiments
Ten of the most influential social psychology experiments.
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What You Learn in Your 40s
There are no soul mates. There are no grown-ups. It’s O.K. if you don’t like jazz.
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The Wisdom of Bruce Lee: 25 Quotes on Mastery, Martial Arts & Consciousness
Bruce Lee was a phenomenon. When he emerged into stardom in the early 1970′s, the world was blown away. A martial artist…
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13 Things I've Learned From Being Married Three Times
In the end, we are all who we are. You own your life and you have no control over other people's opinions of your life. What you can control is how you allow that to affect you....
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9 Ways to Protect Yourself from Negative Energies - Waking Times
9 Ways to Protect Yourself from Negative Energies
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5 Fixes for Conversations That Go Bad
How to rein in an argument before you both lose it.
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Why Some People Let Us Down When We Need Them
Surprising research into who supports us when we're struggling.
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10 Great Ways to Get to Know New People Without Awkwardness
Icebreakers backed by the principles of social psychology.
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Against Chill
“Chill” has become one of the most desirable qualities in a romantic partner. But it is a garbage virtue that will destr…
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Are You Mentally Strong or Just Acting Tough?
... and why acting can hold you back.
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An Unforgettable Zen Story About
Here is my favorite Zen story about letting go and moving on.
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25 Life Changing Lessons to Learn from Paulo Coelho
By: Purpose Fairy “Life has a way of testing a person’s will, either by having nothing happen at all or by having everything happen at once.” ~ Paulo Coelho
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The Key to Intimacy for Any Relationship
... and how you can achieve it.
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Comfort Zone | May 2006 - The HSP Who Is Also A High Sensation Seeker
This article about High Sensation Seeking also includes the High Sensation Seeking Scale for HSPs.
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Emotional Regulation and HSPs
HSPs are simply are more aware of negative feelings (all feelings, really). This article discusses ways HSPs can regulate tougher emotions.
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4 Allies and Too Anxious Beat 1 Shade of Gray
Wrestling with anxiety and depression
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Want to Start a Task Sooner? Make it Concrete!
Think of your tasks concretely, it makes a difference.
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Understanding the Highly Sensitive Person
Extraverted HSPs face unique challenges.
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The Wound with No Name
What lies behind chronic depression, anxiety, addiction, and other life-stoppers
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Watch Out for Those Touchy, Treacherous, Hurting Complexes
We all have complexes. You need to know about them.
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Consulting with Your Wisest Self
Your wisest self: how to find it. It's there.
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5 ways to kill your dreams
All of us want to invent that game-changing product, launch that successful company, write that best-selling book. And yet so few of us actually do it. Brazilian entrepreneur Bel Pesce breaks down five easy-to-believe myths that ensure your dream projects
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Why We Procrastinate at Bedtime
... and the challenge so many of us have convincing ourselves it's OK to sleep.
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4 Ways to Boost Your Charisma
There are 6 core elements and you can develop every one.
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9 Ways to Be Likable
Whether you're the introvert that's quickly drained with obligatory conversations, or would never call yourself a
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A Cranky Pessimist's Guide to Getting Things Done
Negatively disposed towards positive thinking? There's an alternative.
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The Pessimist’s Guide to Happiness
Want to be happier? Stop buying into myths about happiness.
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4 Ways to Stop Sabotaging Yourself
You can fail at anything. Why not take a chance on doing what you love?
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How to Communicate with Difficult Seniors and Older Adults
How to Communicate Effectively with Seniors
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Communication Success with Different Personality Types
How to communicate effectively with different personality types
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How to Deal With Arrogant and Judgmental People | eHow
As long as people must interact with one another, inevitably they will come in contact with others who are difficult to get along with. Among the most annoying are those who are judgmental – stating unsolicited opinions about other people’s co
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5 Lessons to Deal with Judgmental People - Lovepanky
Are you having a hard time dealing with a judgmental person and their negativity? These experiences and 5 lessons can help change the way they affect you.
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3 Reasons Why Being Overly Judgmental Hurts You More Than Anyone Else
Being overly judgmental will only result in you holding yourself back and missing out on greater opportunities.
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A Dying Neurosurgeon's Exquisite Message To His Daughter
Editor's note: This piece was originally published in Stanford Medicine magazine on February 23, 2015; Paul Kalanithi passed away on March 9, at age 37. Read Stanford Medicine's obituary for him here. By Paul Kalanithi In residency, there&rsquo...
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She lists 10 things every woman should know. #3 makes me weak at the knees.
This is the list I needed.
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15 Things You Don't Owe Anyone (Even Though You Think You Do)
I know how much social pressure there is to conduct yourself a certain way. Some people they know what's best for you and the whole world. But remember...
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8 Ways To Spot Emotional Manipulation And How To Avoid It
Having strong connections to the people in your life is a really important thing to do in order to live this human experience fully, but sometimes, we let
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What I Wish More People Understood About Losing A Child
Four and half years after the death of my oldest son, I finally went to a grief support group for parents who have lost children. I went to support a friend who recently lost her son. I'm not sure I
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Return to Your True Self with Feng Shui - OMTimes Magazine
Feng Shui these three areas of your home to raise your confidence, achieve your goals and find fulfillment. By Ken Lauher
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Awkward! 10 Ways Social Life Gets Really Uncomfortable
…and 6 ways to escape the awkwardness and get comfortable again
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8 Ways to Stop Over-Thinking and Find Peace in the Present Moment
We all do our best to stay positive, but occasionally we can slip into negative thinking patterns that can wreak havoc on…
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Take the Habit Personality Quiz
What’s your habit personality? Take a quiz to find out the factors that influence how you form habits, both good and bad.
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9 Ways We Set Ourselves Up To Be Controlled in Relationships
Do you often feel like others are controlling? Or do you feel like the pressures of life are too much? Do you give your power away to others and feel helpless? If so, this post will shed light on how you might be setting yourself up to feel controlled...
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Words to live by
These TED Talks offer beautiful, sweeping, simple life advice — the kind to tuck in the back of your mind and let inspire you onward.
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How to Coax an Aha!
Nine ways to lay the groundwork for a breakthrough by caralynn
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10 Signs That You Might Have Fear of Failure
... and 2 ways to overcome it and succeed.
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How to Stop Absorbing Other People’s Emotions
Emotions such as fear, anger, frustration, and immobility are energies. And you can potentially ‘catch’ these energies from people without realizing it. If you tend to be an emotional sponge, it’s vital to know how to avoid taking on an individual��
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TED Talks to get you through your quarter-life crisis
Yes, you're an adult now. But there's no need to panic! Take a deep breath and survive twenty-something burnout with the help of these talks.
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The case for emotional hygiene
We'll go to the doctor when we feel flu-ish or a nagging pain. So why don’t we see a health professional when we feel emotional pain: guilt, loss, loneliness? Too many of us deal with common psychological-health issues on our own, says Guy Winch. Bu
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5 Happiness Practices to Increase Levels of Joy
For most of us, these are not new ideas. They are simply habits we have failed to establish... until now. Make today a fresh start for you. Love yourself enough to realize you deserve a happy life filled with joy, gratitude, appreciation, and good he...
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If Disney Princesses Realized They Could Save Themselves
Aladdin saving Princess Jasmine from the evil clutches of Jafar; a prince smooching Snow White, reviving her from her eternal sleep; Prince Charming rescuing Cinderella from her nasty stepfamily: the Disney princess narrative of a damsel in distress ...
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Are You an Empathizer or an Instigator?
The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place. — George Bernard Shaw Statistically, about 50 percent of all people are Empathizer communicators and 50 percent are Instigators. Neither type is better or worse,...
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8 TED Talks to watch before public speaking
If you’ve got a presentation to give at work or school — or are perhaps getting ready to speak at a TEDx event? — we recommend these talks to help get you pumped up.
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The Compassion Experience: Vista, CA
An immersive event from Compassion International coming to Vista, CA Feb. 10-13. Journey into daily life in a developing country. Click to register.
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Compassion and the true meaning of empathy
Buddhist roshi Joan Halifax works with people at the last stage of life (in hospice and on death row). She shares what she's learned about compassion in the face of death and dying, and a deep insight into the nature of empathy.
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Compassion and the true meaning of empathy
Buddhist roshi Joan Halifax works with people at the last stage of life (in hospice and on death row). She shares what she's learned about compassion in the face of death and dying, and a deep insight into the nature of empathy.
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Compassion and the true meaning of empathy
Buddhist roshi Joan Halifax works with people at the last stage of life (in hospice and on death row). She shares what she's learned about compassion in the face of death and dying, and a deep insight into the nature of empathy.
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What to do When The Going Gets Rough - Lion's Roar
Pema Chödrön on four ways to hold our minds steady and hearts open when facing difficult people or circumstances.
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Dare to disagree
Most people instinctively avoid conflict, but as Margaret Heffernan shows us, good disagreement is central to progress. She illustrates (sometimes counterintuitively) how the best partners aren’t echo chambers -- and how great research teams, relationsh
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10 Things No One Tells Women about Turning 40
1. You will get laugh lines on your face but you don’t care because all that means is that you laugh a lot which is the …
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One Simple Exercise Sure to Make You Feel Better About Yours
With a minimum of effort, change the way you see your world.
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How to Stop Worrying and Get on With Your Life
An expert explains why worries spiral out of control, and how to stop them.
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10 Surprising Facts About Failure
It's not whether you fail, or why, that matters, but how you react to it.
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What Your Personality Has to Do With Your Neighborhood
Extroverts are more likely to be drawn to a city's center, for example.
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Rejection: A Loser's Guide
Physiologically, neurologically, anthropologically speaking rejections sucks!
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5 Steps to Launching Your New Life
Research-based tips for reinvention, starting today.
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7 Negative Behaviors You Need to Ignore
“Be careful how you think; your life is shaped by your thoughts.” – Proverbs 4:23 Develop your inner strength by ignoring these 7 behaviors, while doing...
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Two Personal Qualities More Vital To Success Than IQ That Most People Don’t Know — PsyBlog
Here are two trainable personal qualities which predict success four times more than intelligence.
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Want to Go Far? Make This Your Goal
How to overcome 5 obstacles to kindness
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The psychology of time
Psychologist Philip Zimbardo says happiness and success are rooted in a trait most of us disregard: the way we orient toward the past, present and future. He suggests we calibrate our outlook on time as a first step to improving our lives.
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What This Classic Pessimist Can Teach Us All About Happiness
In the same way being poor teaches us to appreciate wealth, having our hearts broken teaches us to love faithfully, struggle and failure magnifies our victories -- Eeyore's melancholy in a subtle way highlights the joys in life....
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7 Strategies to Transform a Broken Heart - OMTimes
When we suffer a deep loss or trauma our broken hearts can literally feel that they have been shattered into a million pieces.
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Let It Go!
Past hurts and old injustices have a way of keeping us stuck in our tracks, unable to move forward or experience joy. It can take a radical reboot to get past yesterday. Here's how.
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5 Ways to Effectively Deal With Criticism
If you live to serve others to avoid criticism -doing what makes them happy- you will become very unhappy. Heres 5 Ways to Effectively deal with Criticism:
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9 Ways to Be There for a Friend, Without Giving Advice
... and 5 difficult truths about trying to give advice.
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3 Signs You're Having A Soul Emergency
Are you having a spiritual meltdown without realizing it? The author of Eat, Pray, Love reveals the critical, overlooked red flags. By Elizabeth Gilbert 1. You're Bored. I feel like boredom is the first and quietest signal of spiritual desp...
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Work Like You Don't Need Money And Love Like You've Never Been Hurt
Work like you don’t need money and love like you’ve never been hurt. It’s really all in your head.
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9 Toxic Thoughts That Can Destroy Your Relationship
Can you still see your partner for who he or she really is?
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Need a GPS for Navigating Life's Challenges?
If you're feeling emotionally off-track, here's 12 routes to a better place.
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4 Ways To Stop Being So Indecisive
Iyanla Vanzant has four suggestions to help you make up your mind. By Iyanla Vanzant When the stakes are high, making a decision can feel like a mission impossible -- and endlessly vacillating between choices leaves you feeling stuck and mis...
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How Successful People Handle Toxic People
Toxic people defy logic. Some are blissfully unaware of the negative impact that they have on those around them, and others seem to derive satisfaction from creating chaos and pushing other people’s buttons. Either way, they create unnecessary compl
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11 Things to Remember When You Feel Stuck - Power of Positivity: Positive Thinking & Attitude
When stuck, remember that it is in how you approach these difficulties that determines the ultimate outcome and the lessons learned. Here are 11 things to...
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20 Things to Remember When You Think You’re Not Good Enough
Sometimes the hardest part of the journey is simply believing you're worthy of the trip. Truth be told, you can’t berate yourself into ...
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The Five Levels of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs
Self-actualization involves fulfilling your potential and becoming all that you are capable of being. Learn more about the role it plays in Maslow's hierarchy of needs.
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10 Ways to Boost Your Self-Esteem Right Now - Power of Positivity: Positive Thinking & Attitude
If you’re down on yourself, feeling lonely, depressed or ready to give up on your dreams, read this! It’s time to give your self-esteem a boost and realize that YOU are a beautiful, unique, talented creation of life and belong in a life filled
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5 Tricks to Transform Fear Into Fortitude - Power of Positivity: Positive Thinking & Attitude
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How To Be Yourself, Even In Life's Most Anxiety-Inducing Moments
Brené Brown believes that authenticity is more than a buzzword -- it's a daily practice. Join Brené Brown on her journey to wholeheartedness -- sign up for the on-demand eCourse today. In our culture, we love buzzwords and catchp...
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7 Habits of Highly Emotionally Intelligent People
People with high emotional intelligence tend to do better at work. So what habits do they have that set them apart?
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Field Guide to the People-Pleaser: May I Serve as Your Doormat?
Why are some people so focused on pleasing others that they sacrifice their own needs?
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What’s Wrong With You For Not Reaching Happiness?
Three ways to free yourself from having to become perfect
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Surviving Generation Stress: 4 Roses
How to recognize and engrave good experiences into your brain
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Ego, Mind, and Culture
How can we thrive if ego and mind are disparaged?
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Is Your Mind Too Full To Be Happy?
Three practical areas in which to unclutter your mind
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Why We Tolerate What We Hate, and How to Stop
You can heal emotional wounds and get what you need.
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5 Effective Ways To Handle Difficult People
“Whatever you fight, you strengthen, and what you resist, persists.” ~Eckhart Tolle It’s morning; you’re in a great mood. You’re relaxed and have plenty of time to practice your morning routine. After a delicious breakfast you head out to start
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16 Ways to Manage Your Anger
Sixteen ways to manage your frustration based on your personality type.
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Meet 10 Inspiring People Who Took Risks After 50
Huff/Post 50 recently asked readers to submit nominations of people who've reinvented themselves for the better after age 50 as part of an initiative launched with the TODAY show called
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Why Do We Punish Ourselves?
Studies show self-punishment is surprisingly common. But there's a better way.
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What to Do When Life Isn't Fair
Sometimes life isn't fair. But you still should be.
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5 Things The Dying Want Us To Know
Veteran journalist and author of Opening Heaven's Door: Investigating Stories of Life, Death, and What Comes After explains what she discovered after researching how people cross over. By Patricia Pearson 1. The 72-hour mark is when it begins. ...
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How to Stop Absorbing Other People’s Emotions
Emotions such as fear, anger, frustration, and immobility are energies. And you can potentially ‘cat...
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Decompressing Emotions With Radical Acceptance
A common way in which we deal with unpleasant emotions is to suppress or ignore them. These are normal coping…
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The Surprising Skill Successful People Have In Common (And How To Cultivate It)
Most of us believe that leadership is the key to success. But, says Martha Beck, there's a lot to be said for taking a backseat. By Martha Beck While I was finishing my education back in the Pleistocene era, I got a job teaching at an inter...
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The Secret To Dealing With Passive-Aggressive People, Revealed
Ah, passive aggression. The best way to handle conflict. Not. There's a reason why passive-aggressive behavior gets such a bad rap. Not only is it supremely frustrating for both parties involved, but it's also incredibly unproductive to the pas...
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This Video Reminds Women To Stop Apologizing So Much
Women: stop apologizing when you have nothing to apologize for. A new video from Pantene's #ShineStrong series shows a number of situations where women say
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Overcoming Loneliness
3 steps to easing the pain and reconnecting with the world.
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“I Am a Lovable Person!”: Why Positive Mantras Backfire For Some — PsyBlog
The positive mantra has long been a staple of self-help books.
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8 Things to Remember When Everything Goes Wrong
Practical Tips for Productive Living
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The Emotion That Boosts Self-Control and Saves You Money — PsyBlog
We have a new ally in the struggle to resist temptation.
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Why You Should Embrace Failure
Change your perception and discover new confidence.
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How to Handle a Crazymaker
4 keys to keep from losing it when they start playing games.
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Why We Need All the Acquaintances We Can Get
Neighbors and baristas turn out to be crucial members of your social network.
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The Only Time When Lying Is Ideal
Honesty is the best policy, says Martha Beck -- except when it isn't. Here's how to know when to fess up, when to keep mum, and when to lie through your teeth. By Martha Beck
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10 Things To Remember For Your 40s
I am more comfortable in my own skin, calmer about the challenges I face and able to function better in my relationships in my personal and professional life. I also look a hell of a lot better because I have more money than I did at 20!...
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Superstars of Psychology: 10 Best Short Talks (Videos) — PsyBlog
Here are 10 of the best talks about psychology from some of the superstars of this and related fields.
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Why Men Are Irritable, Angry, Stressed, and Depressed -
Dr. Jed Diamond shares some surprising findings from the new science of love.
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The Grand Cardinal Cross of 2014 Explained: Transformation & Challenge
Welcome to one the most intense transformational cycles of the 21st century, the grand cardinal cross of 2014.
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Make Everyone You Meet Unforgettable
You can quickly learn how to remember everyone’s name at your next gathering.
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The 9 Essential Habits Of Mentally Strong People
In 1914, Thomas Edison's lab burned down, and years' worth of his work was destroyed. This could easily be described as the worst thing to happen to Edison, but the inventor instead chose to see it as an energizing opportunity that forced him to rebu...
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Procrastination: Oops, Where Did the Day Go?
We fool ourselves in the minute-by-minute choices we make.
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Self-Sabotage: The Enemy Within
We all get in our own way occasionally and some people do it repeatedly, whether it's procrastinating, drinking, or overeating. Self-sabotaging behavior results from a misguided attempt to rescue ourselves from our own negative feelings.
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In The Darkest Of Moments, These People Responded In The Most Beautiful Ways
In dealing with the loss of a loved one, perhaps the only remedy for those empty feelings is honoring their lives by helping them find peace in their final moments. As the people in the stories below faced death, they wished only for their lives t...
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9 Surefire Ways To Break The Ice
Some people have that magical Barbara Walters-like ability to get anyone to talk. The rest of us need a little help.
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How To Encourage People To Change Their Own Minds — PsyBlog
Self-persuasion: let people talk themselves around to your point of view.
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20 Diagnostic Signs That You’re Suffering From “Soul Loss” . Article by Lissa Rankin | The ManKind Project Journal
by Gonzalo Salinas I'm extremely grateful to Dr. Lissa Rankin. I think she saved me by helping me understand what was happening in my life. I was training
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Overcoming Loneliness
There is a way to reconnect when you feel alone in the world.
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5 Things That Kept Me Sane When My Life Teetered On The Edge
Keeping a positive, emotional balance is crucial in order to succeed when life has pushed you to the edge. You have to actively keep your mind in the right place in order to continue moving forward.
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14 Signs You're Really Happy
If someone on the street asked you if you were happy -- what would you say? Many factors influence how we feel on a day-to-day basis, whether it’s a struggle at work or an issue in our personal lives, and most of them can decline our feelings of pos
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41 and Pregnant: So What?
On Friday, British columnist Ashley Pearson, who had her first child at 41, described her discomfort about being part of a recent BBC radio program debating whether older mothers are selfish. A recent study showed that a staggering 70% of women over the a
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Eight Keys to Life Hardiness and Resiliency
Helpful Reminders During Challenging Times
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The Two-Minute Intervention That Will Unlock Your Creativity
Grammy-nominated musician Peter Himmelman's technique for overcoming fears
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6 Tips For Dealing With Difficult (Even Impossible) People
In case you're wondering how to play well with others, we have a few ideas.
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How Your Identity Can Feel Threatened In a Relationship
How to identify when the need to stand your ground becomes unreasonable
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Anxiety: Getting Excited Beats Trying to Calm Down
People giving public speeches and taking a stressful maths test did better when they re-thought their performance anxiety.
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How To Finally Quit Candy Crush (And More Ways To Kick Unwanted Habits)
By Corrie Pikul Because putting your mind to it hasn't worked the past four times, we've rounded up five strategies that might be more effective.
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How to Be Assertive, Not Aggressive
You can advance at work and still be human
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What To Do When Things Aren’t Going Right • Social Justice Solutions
This post will probably be of most interest to two primary readers. The first group would be those people who know that there is something lacking in their current occupation or if unemployed, know they want to do something different … Continue rea
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Anxiety Study Finds Key To Battling Stage Fright
Sweaty palms. Dry mouth.
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The Body Map of Emotions: Happiness Activates the Whole Body
New study reveals where people feel different emotions in the body.
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Who Do You Want to Be In Ten Years?
Contemplating big changes for the new year? Don't forget about the small ones.
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7 Relationship Resolutions Worth Keeping
Invest in what matters in 2014
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How To Wire Yourself For Resilience
The brain is not wired for fast access to all those loving, special, tender, supportive moments that do come our way. Given this biological fact, we have to work to hold the good moments in our awareness and practice bringing them to mind.
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How To Overcome Life's Ups And Downs
See every obstacle as an opportunity for personal growth. Close your eyes and take a deep breath. Allow reality to set in and understand not only the scope of what is happening but also the reasons behind it.
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Christmas Angst and the Psychology of Gifts: 5 Giver Types
The darker side of presents and gift-giving
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Why Holiday Music Can Hurt
Christmas music doesn't bring everyone cheer.
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Dating Mistakes: Sexual Caution and Other Turn-Offs
Avoid these mistakes and your dating life will thank you!
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7 Ways To Boost Your Gratitude
Many of us are well versed at juggling dozens of different thoughts in our heads at once. It is tough to feel true gratitude when your attention is divided. Take the time to really focus on the person you are with or event that is happening in the moment.
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The Ultimate Cheat Sheet for Reinventing Yourself
Here are the rules: I've been at zero a few times, come back a few times, and done it over and over. I've started entire new careers. People who knew me then, don't me now. And so on. This is what worked for me.
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The Best-Kept Secret To Highly Successful Couples
In order to understand where you fit in and how to best navigate your relationships with others, here's a summary of the three styles of romantic partners.
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I'm 44 And Single -- Here's What I Know About Love
There are good dates, bad dates and forgettable dates. And there are dates that feel ethereal. They are rare, rarer than a much desired sun shower on desert-hot day. And sometimes, they last just that long, just long enough for us to remember a connection
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Hurting at the Holidays? 7 Common-sense Strategies
Coping with your less-than-ideal family during the season of thanks and joy
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The 5 Lies You Tell Yourself After A Breakup
By Bo Sellers for YourTango.com At the age of six, I fell madly in love with a boy in my class who I knew preferred brunettes.
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F*ck Balance, Try Alignment -- The Beauty of Disequilibrium.
What if we agreed to let it all go, with a wild, lusty abandon...
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Rebound.
Love is not a fantasy, romance, the candles or flowers, it’s the dedication to find the love within.
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Nurse reveals the top 5 regrets people make on their deathbed
For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three ...
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How to Heal a Broken Heart: The Search for Joy.
When did you stop dancing? When did you stop singing? When did you stop being enchanted by stories? When did you stop finding comfort in the sweet territory of silence?
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Discovering Your Archetype: Are you a Princess or a Queen?
Archetypes are the embodiment of collective personality traits and personas we all share. Like a Halloween costume, we take on these traits as part of our identities without even knowing it....
